So... I have a dilemma on my hands. Easton is totally OBSESSED with a new show called Ben 1o about a boy who transforms himself into aliens to flight off bad guys. . I mean he is 100% hooked and it is sort of cute how he is so completely in love with this show. He knows the words to the song and turns it up so loud when it comes on and is so excited. It is the cutest thing. (I have to add that he has been saving his money so hard to buy this special watch that is in the show and he wants is so bad. he had me print it off the computer and then he cut it out and TAPED it to his hand. He did that all on his own. That is how much he loves this show.) That is one of the greatest things about him- he is so in character and totally passionate about things he loves. It is all he wants to play, talk about or do.
Ben 10 is only available on the computer (for us since we don't have cable) so it has been good leverage for getting him to do things. However, I have started to notice little things I don't care for in the show. I think it is really affecting his attitude and the way he talks etc... (both to Derek and I and also with friends) so... I realize boys are boys and rough play is normal, but I am wondering where that line is when even though a show is geared at his age and all the other moms think it is fine... I just don't know- how do you tell you little boy that he can't watch it or play it? He loves it so much, and I am pretty sure it will be a passing phaze, like so many other obsessions I've seen come and go. I feel so mean, but I think Derek and I have both come to the conclusion that he is really being negatively affected by it and even though he loves it so much, he is probably a lot better off without it. So.. how do we do it and what is a good activity that we can use to replace it? Am I being way over protective analytical? I just want him to be a nice boy and not talk back. These are the two main issues we are facing that started about three weeks ago (same timing as BEN 10 craze). Sometimes being a parent is so dang hard and it seems like no matter what you do you, it is hard to know if you are doing the right thing.
7 comments:
There is nothing wrong with limiting certain TV shows. My kids aren't allowed to watch anything on Cartoon network because I don't like how the children talk. I would tell him that if he keeps talking back then he can't watch that show. I am usually really honest with my kids and would just tell them that I've noticed their back talking and think they got it from a certain show/too much gameboy whatever it may be and if they don't quit the show stops.
I agree with the above comment about Cartoon Network. Dora bugs the crap out of me, so that is a show that I try to limit. (Her voice only has one volume: loud I know everyone loves Dora, sorry!)Maybe just explain that while there are some cool things about the show, there are also some not-so-good things, and maybe even try to point them out. Of course, that could backfire too, and he might do it more. But being straightforward with him will probably be the most effective.
I agree with what the other gals have said. You could give him a chance to correct his behavior and if he doesn't then he has been warned. We have had to do this with Blake because of the same kind of thing.
It would be nice if these wonderful children came with an instruction book huh?
All I have to say is good luck! You are a great mom and I'm sure what ever you decided to do is the right thing!
Ya know don't feel bad. There are so many times in his life where you will have to draw the line until he can do it on his own. There are some things that I notice with Boston and it even happens with music. What I have noticed when he starts to get that way he is only allowed to listen to church music or classical. It really mellows him out and I will do this for a couple days until my bubba is back. Thats when you know its time to stop something. You are a great mom and can do it!
Oh my gosh Easton is so Big!!! I just found your blog from Katrina's blog. How fun. I can't believe Easton. It seems like we were all just at USU with babies. NOt these big boys. I added you to our list of friends. I hope thats o.k. It is so fun to see how you guys are doing. We were just talking about all our USU friends the other day. We have a blog also it's chrisandkels@blogspot.com
Plus I totally agree about how rough some of the shows that are our there for boys. WE are going through the same things with Mason. SOme of them are so violent!! Good luck
Sami misses Easton! She still talks about him all the time! We are looking forward to the next school year!
Post a Comment